Can't Take It Anymore

I used to be an impatient person and always want things to be done now. It was never later. I loved to complete what ever task given, fast, so that I have more time to relax and do the things I love. However, no matter how impatient I used to be, the sound of a crying baby or whining of a dog or cat never annoy me. Even when I was still single.

I used to think that once a person starts a family and start to have kids, they some how mellow down and stay calmer than before but found out that is not the case.

A friend of mine told me that her husband can't stand the sound of their toddler crying or whining. She always have to coax her two toddlers and keep them quiet when ever her husband is around. Once, on a trip, they need to travel a few hours by car and her three year old son start whining. The husband asked my friend to shut him up, but she failed. After twenty minutes or so, her husband pull the car to the side, open the back door and asked the son to leave the car.

Oh mine, on the highway, in the middle of no where? And I thought all adults, once become parents, they automatically have that parents instinct to love and protect their kid no matter what.

Guess that is also what prompt an inpatient person to pour hot water at stray dogs and cats. They just could not stand the whining and barking etc. Poor strays, all they wanted was to beg for some food and love. It that too much to asked for.

I even have neighbors who trained their young children to sit still the whole day, doing nothing, and is so proud that they succeed. No wonder they didn't do well in school when they were older. No exploration, learning, interacting and social skill and yet the parent could still complain to others as to why other children are so cheerful, intelligent and charming compare to her's.

To me babies, puppies and kittens are suppose to be playful with a little crying and whining. Unless they are born dumb and mute. Never could understand how cruel this world could be.

Thanks for reading and I hope the world would be a better place tomorrow with more kind people.

What Are Your Priorities

I find most folks in Malaysia has a hobby of traveling oversea. Not only travel oversea but to make sure they cover the whole map, if possible, like if there is a medal or reward waiting for them at the end. Well, if you have extras and travel oversea with your love ones, once in a while, is romantic and fun thing to do for the whole family. But if to travel on loan, I would think twice.

I have seen folks with leaking roof and pipe, washing machines that hiccups when used, wear and tear of cars and house that need attention, but they would rather saved up to travel first. If they have extra after the trip, then it goes to plumbing and repairs.

Is it that important to show others that they have step foot to all the places on the map. Once a friend wrote on facebook that she long to experience winter and another friend wrote something that sounded like as if it is a big deal that this friend of mine had yet to experience it. Like it is compulsory to experience all four season abroad.

Vacations, to me, are to have a great time with love ones and photos of vacation are to remind me of what a good time we have together. If travel on loan will mean misery after the trip. Isn't our purpose in life is to be happy? I wouldn't be happy after a vacation if I have to come home to a leaking house or pipe that is not working.

Well, different folks have different priorities and traveling abroad is definitely not mine. Thanks for reading. So, what are your priorities?

My Muffin

We adopted this mix-breed two weeks ago from "Paws Mission" a.k.a "Second Chance", a non-profit animal rescue organization run by volunteers around Malaysia. Isn't he cute. Having a puppy around is really a hand full but after weeks of training, from me, he kinda mellow down and not as hyper like the first few days when we took him home. I learned a lot form the internet as how to train him.

Some relatives and friends advice us against having a dog, providing us thousands of reason why we should not. Guess these folks have never experience the joy of having pets. Some of them even said I had turn my house into a zoo but I only have one six year old rabbit and two sweet stray cats that come home only occasionally and a one and half months old puppy. Is that too much to ask for.

I wanted a dog to train myself to be more patience and to learn up new skill as to how to train a dog. Everyday I learned something new from my pets. These are improving my brain power.

I just could not describe the joy when I succeed in training Muffin to perform a certain tricks or do certain things as I command. You definitely can't do that to your kids or spouse, hahahah, only on dogs. Muffin is a very smart dog. He outsmarted us sometime. Can't wait to teach him more tricks.

Well, only pet lovers will understand all the excitement I am experiencing now. Hubby did asked if I regretted bring Muffin into our home, tiring at times but no doubt I am enjoying every minute of Muffin.

Thanks for reading and hope you enjoy your pets as much as I do.

No One Intent To Replace You

I once read from some where that says, most dads thinks that there will never be a man who can pampered his daughter like he does and most moms thinks that her son will never get a wife who can take care of him as good as her. Well guess this is how the war between most mother-in-law with their daughter-in-law and father-in-law with their son-in-law started.The jealousy and fear that we as parents will be replace by our children's spouse. When children decided to get marry we should be happy that our children had learn to love another and is loved by one more person beside you, as parents. They got married not because they found someone to replace you as parents.

I have seen a lot of cases of such jealousy and it escalate to hatred and can't stand the sight of the other. The worst among all, to me, is cases of only son of single moms. These moms just could not let go. Every single thing that the son's wife or girlfriend does is just hot good enough. When I was young I used to tell my mom that my future husband should be an orphanage. Hahahah. Then I would have no parent's -in-law. Well, that dream didn't come true but I am getting along fine with my parent's-in-law. We aren't buddies but at least we still do share secrets and gossips.

I could see some of my friends with only one son, heading that way. The way they talk about their son, it is like their whole world evolve around the only son and nothing else matter. These friends should start a hobby or get involved with some charity work so that when their son gets a wife, these people still have something else to look forward to other then pick a fight or find fault with their son's other half.

In my opinion, we as parents, have got to learn to let go. Let them learn to love and take care of others and themselves. Every person in this world is different, even twins don't think alike all the time, so don't expect your children to get a spouse like you.

Thank for reading and happy parenting. A Happy Parents' Day to you too.