May 6, 2012

Mother's Day Confession

Yes. Mother's Day is finally here. It reminded me of my mom, many years ago, on the night of Mother's Day, she had a stoke. My sister and I had never celebrate Mother's Day with her. My family only celebrate Birthdays. Maybe because my mom is always not around when we were young. It made us feel like she is always not available when we needed her the most yet she always brat about herself being the best mom in the world. It makes me feel that it is not worth celebrating this auspicious day with her.

After I got married, my husband's family, on the other hand, had never missed a Mother's Day or a Father's Day or his parents birthdays. All his brothers, sisters and their spouses and my nieces and nephews would make sure we had one day free on those month to celebrate with my in-laws, either we eat out or pot luck at home.

I remembered clearly, that unfortunate day. That was the year when my mom decided to stay on her own and I start sending my sons to my mother-in-law instead, when I am at work. That night, hubby and I and my two young sons, then, just came home from a Mother's Day dinner with my in-laws. I had just put my two sons to sleep and it was about 11 at night, my hand phone rang. My mom was on the other line. She sounds calm but she said that she could not move her left half of her body. She was watching t.v and had a headache and the next thing she knew half of her body felt so heavy and could not moved. Luckily her hand phone was on a nearby coffee table. She tried to stand but felled on the floor. She forced herself to reach the phone and called me. I have the spare keys to her house.

In a panic manner, hubby and I search for the spare keys. When you are in a hurry, you just could not find those keys. It used to be laying around some where. As we were searching, my mom kept calling and asked what took us so long but it was less than five minutes to me. At last we found the key and hubby drove to her house, which took about thirty minutes to reach her place. I called my sister too, but her place is even further so I told her to meet us in the hospital.

Hubby thought that he was huge enough to carry my mom as she is just a medium sized lazy, no need for an ambulance. I stayed at home as there was no one available to take care of my young sons that night. Hubby said he had a hard time helping my mom into the car. My sister was already at the hospital waiting.

That night she had to go through a lot of scanning etc so the Doctor advice us all to visit her the next day. The very next morning, the minute we reach her bed she is already joking and laughing and explaining what she went through and how the MRI machine sounded like the sewing machine that we used to have. Her face muscles had gone back to normal but her left leg and hand was a bit tight. Doctor recommended that we get a physiotherapy to help her walk and move left hand and leg again.

I remembered she was discharged very soon. My sister and I took turn sending her to Chinese acupuncture and on certain days a physiotherapy would drop by her place to help her recover. She is a fast learner and with her character of laughing at just about anything under the sun, she had a speedy recovery. Even the doctors couldn't believe it and praise her for her speedy recovery. But then of course the western practitioner was not informed of the acupuncture treatment she was getting at the same time.

Anyway, she still can't walk or do stuffs as fast as she used too. She always does stuff in a hurry and walk like a bullet train. Maybe this is God's way of asking her to slow down. We appreciate her more now but till to-date we still don't celebrate mother's day with her, but we would eat out with her occasionally. Well, besides Mother's Day we have so many other reason to celebrate and be together and eat out or go on trips together once in a while.

Thanks for reading. Just want to share with you what Mother's Day mean to me. Everyday could be Mother's Day if you be around your mom and appreciate her and be grateful that you have one. Imagine there are lots of others who will never know what a mother's love is. My heart goes all out to those people. Happy Mother's Day to all mommies out there.


Don't unplug your hub. said...

We should all appreciate our loved ones. Life is short and sometimes fragile. I wish my mum was still here, even though she wasn't always there for me.

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convert girl said...

My family in Indonesia also never celebrates mother's day and father's day. In Indonesia, mother's day is not celebrated like here. No fancy menus in restaurants, no special sales in malls... We are just reminded that we should love and appreciate our mothers. Happy mother's day to you...

Kim @ Stuff could... said...

I agree with you about Mothers Day..sorry your Mom had a stroke

Aries said...

HI, thanks for all the comments

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