October 29, 2010

Learn to let go

I find most parents now a days, finds it hard to let go of their children. This reminds me of a true story of someone I met during my nine to five job. We have fresh graduates joining us every year. One of them was this particular girl, in her late twenties. She has a very unique way of interacting with others (meant to say weird actually, ha ha ha).

Then I found out that every morning her aged parents, both mum and dad, by the look of their wrinkles and lines on their faces, they look like they were in their late 60s, send her to work everyday. They would drive to the doorstep, stopped the car and watch her disappeared into the lift. If so happen the lift didn't reach that floor in time, the parents would sit in the car and wait until she gets into one. Sometime I saw her waving her hands with an agitated face signaling to her parents to leave as their car is blocking the narrow driveway. Could you imagine those cars lining up behind, waiting to drop their love ones off to work.

Every evening, without fail, both her parents would park their car nearby and sit in the car waiting patiently for their daughter. Regardless of what time she will be off. She only has a brother, so that makes her the only daughter at home.

She told us that when ever she needs new clothes, shoes or bags, she would go shopping with her parents. Hardly hear her hanging out with friends or office colleagues. Guess the only time when her parents were not around her was during her lunch break at the office. She would have lunch with us all. The time when I resigned, she was already in her early 30s and I could still see her parents sending and fetching her to and fro from the office.

I wonder how is she going to get a boy friend when her parents hang around her at all times. I am astonished as these type of parenting still exist. They think that kids are like pets, keep them around for as long as possible. They forgot that kids will grow to be adults. Children need to learn those survival skills from young. Skills on how to take care of themselves when mummy and daddy is not around. These skills will help them a lot when they become adults.

Thanks for reading and happy parenting. Teach your kids those survival skills early as it is a jungle out there, if you know what I mean.


I'm a full-time mummy said...

One time in a previous job, I interviewed this lady (early 20s) and she came in with her parents... totally not the right message to send to a prospect company! Needless to say she didn't get the job...

Now, back to your post, wow... never knew such parents existed! Although its nice to know your parents care and worry for your safety, I think they should let their child grow up and be independent.

Sandra said...

I completely agree! I have a friend who won't make plans for her kids until she knows if she'll be able to hang out with them. If she is busy with work or other engagements, then they can make plans. Otherwise, they are having yet again more fun family time with mom. Honestly, it makes me nauseous.

Gautam said...

I am really glad my parents are remotely close to the ones described in your post..they were never extra finicky but also made sure that they were there when I needed them..

baili said...

i agree dear ,kids need some space to learn survival skills and live their lives better and independent ,

take care

Aries said...

Oh, looks like my friend here is not the only one whose mum and dad tags along where ever she goes.

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