I have heard numerous stories about children sleeping in the same room, some even same bed, as their parents till their children are very old. Is it due to lack of space or parents just need to have them by their side all the time? When should we let go? Does this only happen in Malaysia, Asia or all over the world?
I trained my two boys since young. The day I took him home from the hospital, I would place him in a cot in a corner of my room. Wanted him to learn to sleep without an adult by his side. I do not switch on a night light. By 1 year old, I would persuade him to sleep on a bed in his own room. Of course he won't mind because he was upgraded from cot to bed. He don't mind sleeping in the dark either.
By the time my second son reach 1 year old I told him he could sleep with his brother. A room of their own. They love the idea. I allow them to decorate their room their way. I don't mind having big posters of transformer, pokemon etc in their room, give them some privacy, just like how daddy and mummy need some privacy too.
Every night I would tug them in, tell them stories in their room in the dark. Give them hugs and kisses and leave the room. The first few years they would sleep with their door open. Occasionally they do have nights that they say they could not sleep, or felt scared after a horror movie, I would tell them to close their eyes and think of something happy that had happen to them recently. It works all the time. Both my sons are in their teens now. No more tugging and story telling. Hmmm miss those days. Since birth till now they had never run into my room in the middle of the night or sleep in the same bed as us.
I had a ex-colleague who is in her mid twenties, told me that she and her sister sleeps with her mum every night since birth. Her dad sleeps in another room. Told me her dad is always so grumpy and gets agitated at almost every single thing. Hmmm perhaps I should have told her maybe her dad lack sex. She looks so naive I don't have the heart to tell her that. Ha ha ha.
Don't you think married couple should have more intimate time together? I believe if you want a long lasting happy marriage, you should tread your spouse like how you tread him / her when both of you started dating. Sweet and lovely and never think of other stuff except how to make each other happy.
So what's your bedtime story? Something that I think works for me and wanted to share with everyone. Thanks for reading.